Who is the real worker?/ Secret of success

Someone asked my daughter if she is making her hair grow. She replied she is not making, they are growing themselves. I remember when I was a small girl, I was fond of long hairs and used to do a lot of things to make them grow more. I used to apply special oils. I used to put tight plates at bedtime so that they get elongated. I used to wash them with some herbs, take some steam bath and what not! It seemed a lot of work. But if I would have just let them, they would have still grown. I wonder who was really working for their growth, me or the hairs themselves.

We often see, sometimes we put a lot of effort into doing something and the result is almost nill. Some other times, we put little or no efforts, and things work like a charm. One day, my bedroom door got damaged. It was not getting locked properly. I called up the best-reviewed carpenter of my area. He kept postponing since he was busy. Finally one day he came, but he needed a new lock and some more things. So, the work got further delayed. After I gathered everything, he came again. This time he spent two hours fixing the door only to break it completely. I called up this guy tens of times, bought things, then worked with him for two hours only to break the door. The worst part is that I had to pay his workmanship as well. The other day, I noticed magnetic stoppers of a couple of doors got broken, a couple of my cupboard's drawers got stuck and the curtain rod also fell down. I got the contact of a carpenter from a friend. I called him. He said he is in the apartment itself and is getting free in 10 mins. He came over and had most of the things needed for the work. He fixed everything within half an hour. I paid him and he left. Who or what was working in reality in two scenarios. In the first case, I as well as the carpenter, who was supposed to be an expert in his field, spent a lot of energy and time. So, we spent talent, money as well as time. But all in vain. Maybe that "real worker" was not working. In the second scenario, I just made a small call and paid the amount. The carpenter also just worked for half an hour to finish so many things. Everything just got fixed perfectly. This time, the real worker did his job. Wait a minute. Do you know what or who is this real worker? As far as I understand its not me or the carpenter.

Does a doctor become a doctor by his or her sole hard work? First of all, he or she was lucky to be born in good family, born with good health and intelligence. Then, he or she got good teachers and a good education. He or she got good financial support as well. If anything would have gone wrong, he or she would not have reached this far. So, what was the real force behind this success?

I have a friend who had an excellent corporate career for straight 15 years. The position she achieved in such a small age was unimaginable. All this time she used to say that she had been very vigilant of the opportunities she got. In fact, she created opportunities to come her way. There used to be hundreds of audiences in the room where she used to speak about how to be successful. Recently, she got sick and the sickness continued for more than a year. It was so bad that she had to take a break from her career. Last time I visited her, she said all this time she used to think that she was the one who made her career. But now she feels, it was just happening and now it has stopped happening. Sure, she is talented but with talent and hard work, there is some other parameter, which I am calling the real worker. This real worker was responsible for the ups and downs.

For sure, a successful person has to put in hard work to be successful. No work can be done by just sitting and thinking about it. But there is an unknown factor which works mysteriously which can bring failure or success. This unknown factor can be the luck, sattva force, karma, strong will, magic, or something else. This unknown factor somehow decides whether our efforts will bring the desired results or not. I wonder how easy it would be to get things done if we understand this unknown factor, the real worker, completely.

10 year old memory of my 4 year old daughter!

Can parents think of a time when their kids were not there?

As a parent, I think it is a very hard thing to do.

Another day, my daughter cried like hell seeing our wedding pictures because she could not find herself there. I told her, "Dear, you were not there then". She said, "What do you mean I was not there, I was always there".

This made me think that it may be untrue to say that my daughter was not with us when she was not born. She is an extrapolation of me, my husband and our families. If I personify our thoughts, emotions, feelings; I see my daughter; of course in a surprisingly novel way. These emotions and thoughts were with us even before our daughter was born. Could that mean we always had her even before her birth?

Let me say it by an example. I never expressed but I have a habit of making up imaginary stories since childhood. I never penned it down nor told anybody. In fact, I think it is a waste of time and try to get rid of it. Surprisingly, my daughter makes up some stories and keep telling all the time. She never saw or heard this from anywhere but something which I passed on to her unknowingly. There are so many things kids do, which reflects our thoughts. But it is hard to identify because kids' thoughts are further colored with what they see on TV, learn in school, listen from friends. Their space is a lot different than ours. And it may not be only our impressions, it can be our parents' and grandparents' impressions. And then interestingly, a mix of all of them.

Now, think of someone who has left us. Five, six years after they have left the world, we still have them in our thoughts. We may be living in a house chosen by our parent or grandparent who is not with us now. We may be doing something which he or she always wanted to do. Our behaviors definitely have a tinch of their impressions.

So, do we live in this world mentally more than we do physically? Well, when we are sleeping, are we living mentally or physically?

It is said the body is in the mind and the mind has no shape. In fact, mind is invisible. Are we living some invisible bigger lives which we are not even aware of? Subconsciously, we affect every other being we meet. If a thought of mine influenced another person to do something. Was it his action or mine or both. Did I live a tinny bit through him?

For sure life is magnanimous, much bigger than we perceive!